I recently read an article about the rise of cleaning-related instagram accounts, being a huge backstep for feminism. This is my two cents on the matter.
I’m a proud feminist with a cleaning account on Instagram, which some might see as a complete oxymoron, as if housework is all together ‘anti-feminist’.
The Stats
To be fair, there is good reason to be concerned. In 2016, the office for national statistics published a report finding that women completed almost 60% more of the unpaid work, than men. Infuriatingly, one report in 2014 shows that as women earn more than their partners, men in certain areas do less and less housework the more their partners earn! The only exception to the rule was cooking, a job that the men in question haven’t categorised as ’emasculating’ within their culture.
Societal Pressure
Many of us are raised believing childcare and housework is a women’s responsibility. We’re taught to attach the cleanliness and tidiness of our home to our self worth, and it’s less-common to find men attaching their self worth to their home in this way. Societal pressure to keep a clean home is widely felt by women.
Not only do we have the glass ceiling to content with, there’s also the sticky floor. In order for us to have successful careers, use our time wisely and fairly and avoid the ‘sticky floor’, we need to fix this. We have to make a change!
My Story
I’m the main breadwinner in my household, working longer hours, with a longer commute than my partner. Even so, it’s been a uphill struggle to get him to realise I simply won’t ‘put up with’ doing more than my fair share of the housework. It’s been a painful struggle to get to a point where jobs are shared fairly in our home.
#ItsNotMyHouseworkItsOurs
As it stands, I have a small Instagram following of 6000+ followers, (small in comparison to the ‘cleanfluencers’ out there)!
It’s important to me to ensure that my voice is heard. I strongly encourage women to PUSH BACK in their own homes, and share responsibilities fairly. Cleaning is NOT ‘women’s work’ it’s for EVERYONE. Influencers in this field have a responsibility to share the same message, in my opinion, and most of them do that very well. Mrs Hinch makes it clear that her and Jamie are both cleaning the house. The organised mum method is all about everyone pulling their weight. Cleanfluencers are not dragging women back into the 50’s, despite what some people say.
I encourage my followers to use their voice, to say no and to push back. To step up and be heard when sharing the responsibilities out. Be strong! I’m using my voice to urge them to PUSH BACK, don’t put up with it! ❌ #ItsOurHouseworkNotMine
If both partners are working, both paying the bills… Then one should never let their partner tell them they are helping the other, with THEIR housework. They should ask their partners to correct themselves, every single time. They are not helping. They are simply doing exactly what is expected of them.
(Any mums reading this raising boys… Make sure you raise them for modern life so their girlfriends don’t have to.) 🙏
Stay at home mums and traditionalists
If you HAVE used your voice, and you have chosen to take on all of the domestic duties yourself, I respect your choice. If have chosen the domestic roles as solely your own. Then you fill your boots. There’s no judgement here. I have endless respect and admiration for stay at home parents and people that take on roles of their own choice.
Does being a #Hincher make me any less of a feminist?
All of us, male or female, are allowed to share and enjoy the little things in life. We’re all mopping our floors anyway, so what’s wrong with us making that into a bit of a party and sharing your buffting dance online? 🎈🎉
Does it make me any less of a feminist? NO. Am I taking a huge backstep for feminism? NO. I encourage my followers to push back and share jobs equally, I work hard and I clean hard 🤣 Just like my boyfriend does.
